How Can You Find Out More About Somebody You Are Dating?
I am dating this guy, but want to find out more about him. His parents are both dead, and he has very few friends, or relatives. I’d like to find out more about him, and the way he was raised or the relationships he has/had with people.
I mean I can ask somethings about his family life, but he’ll not say much or get quiet. I really want to know, so how do I go about it? Who can I ask?
You have to ask him and if he doesn’t answer you can ask him if the subject is painful for him.. you would just like to know more about his past….Maybe he has a reason for not wishing to talk about it… ask him first in a polite way.. you have to be far enough into a deep relationship before he will open up towards you about this.. and you need to give him the feeling he can trust you… he will tell you when he believes he really can trust you but you never should go behind his back just to find out… see first how your relationship goes.. when you really know you love this guy and he loves you.. then I am sure he will tell you.. right now you only say you are dating him.. you did not mention you love him so if he knows you love him and if that love is reciprocated by him then you can ask him.. because if there is true love there has to be mutual respect, honesty and trust but love needs to grow.. it doesn’t happen just with a click I believe right now you are physically attracted.. so give this some time until you know this is love. then he will answer your questions.. xxx That would be a breach of trust if you ask his relatives or look in his private mail either there is trust or it’s not the right relationship you have to ask him and have no right to ask others and give him time
Like the other girl said, dig through his junk and violate his rights to privacy and the trust he has for you. That was sarcasm. Seriously….Why dont you wait until your relationship grows to such a point that it becomes natural that he wants you to know more about him?
Date him longer. Give him time. If he never opens up, you’re probably better off finding someone else. He’s on his best, most accomodating behavior now. If he’s shut down even during dating, you don’t stand much of a chance in the long term.
You have to wait until he is ready to open up to you and for him to do that he has to feel comfortable doing so. Don’t push him, he will open up when he is ready.
ask the relatives he does have. if you’re at his home, snoop around a little
Simply ask questions about them buy not beinb rude.