Are Most Single Mom’s Interested In Dating? Or Are They Too Busy With Raising Their Children?
I am interested in a single mom in her late 30s who has children, but she always seems so busy with her kids that I don’t think she’d be interested in dating (running errands, etc) Do you think I should still ask her out? I rather not embarass myself and get rejected if she isn’t interested in dating to begin with. Thanks!
I know two girls (one in late 20’s other in mid 20’s) that are very interested in dating. One has a boyfriend who is not the father. I think it depends on the situation and where they are at in life. The thing is if you date someone with children you are entering into a family and should get along with ALL members of the family…to do that you are probably going to have to help with these errands etc. and spend time with the child(ren) alone. I say go for it, the worst she can say is no. About embarassment: it’s part of life, you can’t escape it, get it over with now then pick yourself up and move on. You won’t know what can happen until you go for it.
You need to think of not dating her only but her kids as well. You cannot seperate her from her kids. She would probably welcome a man whose not just interested in her. She’s not a single woman only she’s a single mother. What is your definition of dating? Dinner, movie and sex? Are you looking at her as a potential mate or someone to just have casual sex with? Ask yourself this b/c if she wants to go toward a meaningful relationship are you ready to be daddy to her kids? Ask her if she’s interested in dating you and be clear about your intentions. Friends first is always the best starting point.
Rejection is just a part of dating! At least she’d have a valid reason for rejecting you if she’s just too busy for dating. Life’s too short, just ask her out! In my experience as a single mom, most single moms do want to date to varying degrees (ie. some want marriage, others just want casual) but often we’re too busy to go out looking, so we’re happy if someone asks us out. Just do it for something casual like coffee or lunch to start with so you can find out what she’s looking for.
As a single parent- you have to be very careful of who you date or even have around your kids. Im sure you’re a nice guy but from this side of the fence, we question motives…. most men don’t want women with children, why does he…is he interested in me or my kids ( the pedophiles in prison are the ones who got caught!!)….if the kids get attached to him and we break up, can I put them thru that again…Im almost 40 with major responsiblilties-why isnt he looking for someone younger without kids…what does he see…what does he want…is he a beater or a drunk who thinks Im desperate…does he only want sex…you hear stories of men killing their girlfriends kids, would he..? She is a busy woman in mind and body and maybe its too early for her to feel like dating again. She may need to find herself before going to another level of giving herself again. Women—such complicated creatures, arent we?! Tell her you are interested and offer going to the movies or mini golf or meet at a grocery store and shop together (separate carts) and chat while shopping (she’s getting an errand done, very public, and you can tell a person by what they buy!) When she feels comfortable with you, you’ll meet the kids. Dont get mad or annoyed if the conversations are toward the kids, they are a part of her life and being and you’re reactions are a test. As for rejections- an ‘no’ now might be a ‘yes’ later.
Hey, you know what? She’ll love that you’re interested. It’s hard to find guys that are truly interested when you have children. They either want to play games or want a relationship with you but don’t want you to really be the devoted mother you need to be. If she is too busy and you find yourself getting rejected just know that you probably made her day by asking!
by all means ask her out.
But don’t be hurt if she can’t spend lots of time with you, we have a routine that we set down to the last minute.
And sometimes dating throws a wrench in our routine. Not always in a bad way though. Just different, we have to work you in.
Just be patient, and if she sees you’re genuine, she ‘ll make more time for you.
It really depends on the situation and the person. I’m a single mom and if the right person came along and wanted to date me and they understood that my son came first and that things would have to be taken very slowly… Then I’d be up to trying to date.
Ask her out. You will never know what could happen until you try.
When I was a single mom I wasn’t looking into the dating thing, it just sort of fell into my lap. My sons’ baseball coaches bf helped out at all the games and he took an interest in me (God knows why, single mom, 3 kids under 6, the guy was and still is insane…lol) and asked me out. Things just kind of went from there.
my mother began dating when i was in highschool, so i was about 15-16 and my youngest brother is 7 years younger than me. so she waited quite awhile. we always wished she had someone special, even when we were little. I say go for it. what women doesn’t like a delicious dinner out and a few cocktails? i know shes a mother, but she’s still a sexy woman too!!
If I can leave for undisclosed reasons, I’m not going to be trusting anybody for a long time. Good luck. She might at least need a friend.
Not sure.Guess it would depend on the person.
Don’t date single mom, too much baggage!!!!!!
It depends on the person.