Why Does It Feel Like Asking Questions On Ya! For Dating Tips Gets Me Even More Nervous?
It feels like the more I question. The more i get worried. Do you guys feel that? Like the more questions I ask, it’s like i’m not confident about myself. I mean why am I not like other guys who don’t need advice, and just be themselves however they are and see what happens?
Lol, it doesn’t work that way. You know what truly divides the questionor form the answeror? Or the q from the a? RELATIONSHIPS!!! Look at my profile, I never ask for advice HERE! Thats it, I don’t NEED TO, not because I’m smarter, better, wiser, more experienced, but because of the other people in my life. A common theme for everyone who ask questions here, they have no one else that they can ask CONFIDENTLY, so there desperate, in a sense, to ask a question they feel would other wise embasse them in there other relationships or cause conflict, because that relationship isn’t honest enough. So it all comes back to relationships and how well we use them, for some, this is the only option, now time for me to get back to work. Just understand we ALL are the sum of ALL of our human interactions, interpersonal relationships AND understandings. Besides I still get nevous answering questions, its a matter of choice with anything in your life, weather your going to feel EXCITED! Or scared…… but please, relax, enjoy yourself, trust alot of us got back and the rest of us, like you, are looking for some…..
Hi there,
one reason is that an answer works for you on two levels. One is the content part where the question get’s answered. The other is the fact that someone actually had an answer for something that was too hard for you. Naturally you get frustrated and by comparing yourself with the number of people who can handle your situation, you get even more insecure. The trick to get out of this is twofold. One is you really ought to start to appreciate yourself for what you are. You need to know what you stand for and what you mean to yourself independent what others might think. The other thing is you have to realize that all the others are like you, more or less. In the big scheme of thing we all are little worms and realizing that in the end it makes no difference if you are rich or poor, weak or strong, handsome or mediocre, helps to free you from your worries about yourself. Mind you, though, that I am not making light of it. Self doubt can be quite painful and is not easy to overcome.
Good luck,
Scorpiocito