Tip 2.  Remember ladies, if single men talked about their feelings as much as single women do, then dating would be very easy. So how do you find out what single men really want if they don’t tell you?  Simple, ask your girlfriends what he meant when he said he had a really nice time with you and if the third date is too soon to have sex. Your girl friends will only tell you what you want to hear.  You need to be realistic in what guys are really saying.  Guys want a single woman who is consistent and stable. Don’t act one way on the first date and another way on the second date. Stability is the key.

Tip 3.  The goal of dating tips for single women is not to change you into someone else so you can meet more men. Guys don’t want that. Men want someone who is confident. That’s right, confidence really turns them on. If you are happy with yourself and who you are, then he will be too. Men don’t want drama queens.

Tip 4.  Guys will pick up and notice whatever aspects of yourself you don’t like. If you hate your body type, he will also. It goes both ways. If he doesn’t feel like he is very successful, why would you disagree?

Tip 5.  Remember that a boyfriend will not magically cure everything in your life. You already had a life before you have a boyfriend. A good guy will want to help make things even better. Making someone else happy makes a good relationship. Demanding what you want does not.

Ladies, your assignment for this week is to identify two characteristics about you that you love. Write them down. Now, make sure to let five single men know about these characteristics when you talk to them or meet them. Show yourself off!

Best, Janis Spindel www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com 

Here are some tips from our regular online dating columnist, Diane Fisher:

Be punctual. This may sound obvious but you don’t want your date to think you’re not interested or he or she is not worthy of this basic courtesy. Make sure you have each other’s cell phone numbers so if you get unavoidably held up, at least call your date and explain why you’re late.

Don’t dominate the conversation. Ask your date questions and be interested in the answers. Be attentive. Listen to what she or he has to say and respond appropriately.

Did you meet through one of the dating websites ? Surprisingly, there can be some subtle variations with online dating, and offline dating etiquette – if you met online, make sure he or she has seen a real photo of you, not a fake photo, this is quite common with online dating profiles.

Keep the conversation light, at least to begin with and let it flow naturally. Use his or her name while you’re chatting – but don’t overdo it as you could sound like you’re trying to sell something!

Don’t talk about your ex! There’s nothing more off-putting for your date than hearing about how great or ghastly your last partner was. And if you’re out for dinner, a coffee or a drink, try and have a tactic already in mind for who’s going to pay. Sometimes it can be good to work this out, very casually, with your date before you meet. Guys can casually offer to pay, while girls can offer to pay half. See our article about Going Dutch for some tips.

A first or second date may end with a peck on the cheek…or it may end up between the sheets. Whatever the case, use the commonsense factor and try not to act like a nymphomaniac. Keep it to cheek-kissing territory unless it’s natural to move beyond this.

A glass of wine or beer can help ease the tension but drunkenness can really ruin a date. Keep a lid on the bottle, and if you’re a smoker and your date isn’t, don’t light up and avoid smelling like a cigarette factory before you get there!

Make it fun! Let your sense of humor come to the fore, relax and be yourself, don’t get too hung up – there’s nothing like being nervous to kill conversation, keep it cool but not cold, you want your date to think you’re interested, but not desperate.

At the end of the date, thank him or her for a lovely time, don’t play games. If you know you’ll never see him or her again, don’t say “I’ll call you” when you know you won’t.

If you know you want to see this person again, say so. Don’t leave them hanging. If they like you, showing that you like them can’t possibly turn them off, it’s more likely to turn them on.

Don’t wait three days before contacting him or her. If the date went well, drop him or her a line and say what a great time you had the previous night.

It is important for women in search of their Mr Right to exercise certain caution. Here are some online dating tips for women:

There are many online dating tips for woman available to help you have a safe and enjoyable experience. Do your research on internet dating sites and you could be on your way to finding love online.

Is important to remember that safety always comes first. You also need to remember that the things you say and how you act on the Internet will affect whether you have success in finding someone. Before you start online dating is important you learn online dating tips.

Here are some online dating tips to help you when you start dating online.

One: The first thing you want to do is to protect yourself. When you are searching for an online dating site you need to make sure that you check out the one that interests you thoroughly.

It is important that you know whether they are reputable. Read all that and go over everything on their site. You also want to check with other people you know to find out if they can point you towards a dating site online that is a good one.

Two: Once you have picked the online dating site you will have the complete your profile. This is how other members will decide whether they want to meet you or not.

So the most important thing you can do is to not lie about anything. It will come back to haunt you if you do. Always be honest. This is very important if you want to have any chance of finding romance because no one likes to be lied to.

Three: Always be yourself. Don’t try to act like someone you are not. If you do you will quickly find that others are onto what you are doing.

Again, this is one sure fire way of ending your time of online dating. So if you don’t want to find romance then this is the way to do it.

However, for those of you that are serious about finding romance online, you need to let others know the true you because it is important that someone likes you for you. If they don’t like who you are then you know they are not the one for you and you move on.

These are not the only online dating tips that you need to know but they are some of the most important ones. If you want to start online dating then you need to make sure that you know what you want to do and what you don’t because this will mean all the difference to you finding the person that is right for you.

Hear are my top 10:

1. Only meet your date when you are 100% ready. You got to feel comfortable first. Make sure your ‘gut’ agrees with you head.

2. Keep it public. First date should be in a public place like a coffee shop or restaurant.

3. Meet at the date location – meaning DO NOT meet at your dates place of residence or yours. If the date goes really well you’ll then have plenty of opportunity in the future to go there but not now.

4. Keep the date to a limit. Say 1 hour. That give you both plenty of time to get an idea if a connection exists plus it keeps the pressure off if one person can’t wait for the date to be over. Remember – if it goes well then the next date can always be longer.

5. Make a friend aware. Let a friend know that you are going on a date with a new person and let that friend know where you are going to be. Agree to call your friend after the date to let him/her know everything is ok.

6. Make sure to have your cell phone with you and fully charged.

7. Avoid alcohol.

8. Do not leave your drink or food unattended. You don’t know this person so don’t trust too much from the beginning.

9 . Remember your gut. If it tell you things are off be ready to listen to it and simply end the date and leave.

10. Make sure when the date is over that you are not being followed so you get home safely.

Relationships take time to build and trust is something that shouldn’t be given away in a matter of minutes, hours, or even days. Remember – follow your gut and you will know when it’s right to take your relationship to the next level.